Many people in this country are in a desperate attempt to find a way to save their marriage. Not surprisingly, this often happens when something else, called a separation stimulus, or catalyst, becomes a factor. Again that stimulus could be insignificant or life altering such as kids leaving the home, that changes things enough to bring problems to the surface. What that often produces is an effect that is often referred to as that which cuts the ties that bind. In other words it often breaks what is already damaged. The damage, oftentimes, is not infidelity or abuse. Usually it is the normal stress that all marriages are under that can be the primary factor. From children to jobs and finances, and any number of unique things, almost all marriages are under some stress.
The topic of much current discussion is becoming your own marriage counselor. While that might sound like setting your own broken leg or pulling your own impacted tooth, it is really no joke. Many couples are making this work and saving their marriage.
In order to be successful as your own marriage counselor you need two things, commitment and information. If both parties are not truly involved in the attempt to save their marriage it is unlikely to be successful. Having said that, even committed couples often flounder because they are not really sure what to do. It tends to be the same thing over and over again. Women drift apart from lack of emotional support; men separate psychologically when they feel over controlled.
Start with continual and detailed discussions at a genuinely intimate level to bluntly identify and document what is really going on. Next, you should list the issues that are the most significant – from most to least, that you feel you need. Then take your partner’s list and prioritize your willingness or easy of satisfaction of those issues or needs in order, from least to most difficult to provide. This will give both parties what they need and show what they can commit to provide.
If you are really trying to get ex back or are crafting a plan to win your ex back this perspective may be key to understanding how. In any case, you may find that an attempt to get your ex back might be met with a willing partner.
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